Don’t Judge A Book By It’s Cover….or….Hug A Hoodie

The other week Master Chef went to help an elderly lady with a shop door, when she was laden down with bags

She recoiled in horror as he approached

And why?

Because he is a “youth”

He wears his jeans around his knees…..( I know, I know, I hate it too. Though to be fair to him, he has started wearing a 29″ waist instead of 32″, so we’re getting there!) He also wears a hoodie and cap, most of the time…..Oh, and has an eyebrow piercing

So, obviously, he IS a thug, just waiting for an opportune moment to prey on elderly and vulnerable people.

Both my boys  ( and my daughter) have been brought up to respect their peers and elders. They have always been surrounded by adults and have been able to communicate very well with anyone, of any age.

We have instilled the differences between right and wrong and, fortunately, neither of them have ever been in  trouble with the law…although with Son 1 it may have been by the skin of his teeth when he was going through his “rebellious” stage of life.

I’m not saying they are paragons of virtue…they by no means are. But they are NOT thugs.

And I know that there are some very bad young people out there as well

But they are young, and like to follow fashion, and the fashion is baggy jeans, hoodies, caps, and piercings.

Come to think of it, K had her belly button pierced when she was 16. I’m not sure why because she never wore  clothes which showed it off!

It stayed until she was pregnant with her first baby, then had to come out, never to be replaced

Son 1 has had various piercings, including lip and tongue…yuk!! Both of which I have had to remove. But he is now 26 and all grown up so they are all in the distant past. He does have a tattoo.

That was done during the rebellious years, before he was 16… and I still don’t know where he had it done, but it must have been somewhere a bit dodgy to do without consent or seeing proof of age.

Actually it’s quite discreet, on his upper arm. In fact so discreet he managed to hide it from me for months!!

It’s red and the logo of the band he was in at the time. I spied it one evening as he came out of the bathroom, and the conversation went a bit like this

Me   “Oh what’s that on your arm?”

Son  “It’s the logo of my band”

Me   “Is it a tattoo?”

Son   “No Mum, I drew it on with marker pen”

Me    “Then why didn’t it come off in the shower?”

Son   ‘”Cos it’s permanent marker

Me    “Oh, I see”

He managed to fool me for about 6 months til I actually realised it hadn’t faded at all!!

Master Chef would like one but is too afraid of pain to get one done!

Both of them had problems at school with bullying..mainly because they were both individuals and weren’t prepared to go with the flow, and they hate any form of bullying with a vengeance now. One of Master Chef’s best friends at senior school was an Indian lad, and he was forever standing up for him against the racist comments made to and about him.

They both have jobs which involve a lot of interaction with member of the public. Son 1 in insurance and Master Chef in an open, celeb kitchen. And they are both very good at their jobs.

Neither of them are afraid to show open and  public  displays of affection to those they are close to. Auntie S, their surrogate grandmother says how lovely it is that whenever they meet her in town, they will cross the road and give her big hugs..even if they are with their friends

And Master Chef is a self confessed “Mummy’s boy” who hugs and kisses me wherever  we are (well, they both do actually)…although sometimes I think they do it to try to embarrass me!!

So despite their appearance they are both well mannered, polite  young men, people often comment on it to me, and I am very proud of them.

They wouldn’t hurt a fly, and  are often upset by people’s initial reaction to them

Anyway…back to the elderly lady, the bags, and the shop door……

Once Master Chef  had explained that he just wanted to help her, she reluctantly let him open the door and carry her bags to her car. She now comes into the canteen regularly for coffee and cake, and always makes a point of looking for him and having a little chat with him!!!

So next time you come across a young person dressed in what is their” fashion” ( and remember some of the things we wore!!) please remember they are probably very nice under it all…It may even be one of my boys

Don’t tar them all with the same brush

And I’m happy to hug my hoodies!



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